Some Things to Know About Me

I have noticed a tendency in social media for people to think that if they check out (creep) your social media that they will then know EVERYTHING there is to know about you.  So I thought that I would save some people some time and jot down a few things about me that you may or may NOT find in my social media.  I may add to this list as time goes on, because I am still learning things about myself that even I don’t know yet, so how could anyone else possibly know it?  I am going to number these things, but the numbers are not in any order of importance, just that they are the first or second thing I thought of and so on.  So here goes:

1. I am a Spirit having an experience in this physical dimension.
2. I feel often that although I am of this world I am also not FROM here…because this world can be really messed up.
3. I don’t have to BELIEVE in extraterrestrials, I have met some. No, I don’t like to talk about it.  
4. I consider myself to be a Spiritual Atheist.  Because I connect to Spirit, but not to religion, no matter which religion.
5. I like to sing jazz.  And I have a good voice for it.
6. I love my kids to the end of the earth.
7. I love my partner truly, madly and deeply.
8. I see many angles of any situation at one time.  That is why people often misunderstand what I say.  
9. I believe that all of humanity is equal.  There is no room for ageism, sexism, racism, or any other kind of “ism” in my life.
10. I do not take crap from people, no matter how entitled they feel they are in dishing it out.
11. I like to drop the “F” bomb…often.
12. Although there are many other forms of liquid I can take in, and do, my favourite is and always will be COFFEE.
13. I am not philosophically opposed to porn, but I would at least like to be paid well for it if ever I were to do it.
14. I am definitely a dog person, but now and then I will meet a cat that also steels my heart.
15. I like skulls.  If you want to know why, please read my FLIGHT newsletter.
16. I like organisation and tidiness.  My OCD is repulsed by needless clutter.
17. I am a germophobe.  So if I don’t shake your hand it is only because I know that there is a 98% chance that it has recently touched a penis.
18. I love public washrooms that don’t have doors…for the same reason.
19. I will never be a vegetarian or vegan, although I do love my vegetables.
20. I am aware of the fact that technology is supposed to make our lives easier, but that it is failing miserably. 
21. I love to paint….paintings, walls, paintings on walls…it really doesn’t matter…it is my thing.
22. Glitter.  Seriously.  Why did they not invent this stuff sooner?
23. Bling.  I can’t take it with me when I go, so I choose to invest it while I am here…in BLING.
24. I like to create jewelry. 
25. I have BOXES of jewelry that I have created, so much so that my partner was sure he had become involved with a Persian Prince when we moved in together.  It took WEEKS to unpack my boxes of this stuff.
26. I collect things…some of the strangest things.
27. I meditate every day…because it beats the alternative.
28. I am in my 4th marriage.  First one was 2 years ending in divorce.  Second was 18 years ending in divorce.  Third one was 5 years, but only 6 weeks of marriage before she died.  The fourth one I am in currently.  I think that somewhere along the way I unconsciously decided to give Liz Taylor a run for her money.
29. Both of my parents and 2 of my siblings have died as a result of cancer.  None of the cancers were the same, or genetic in any way, so don’t worry.
30. I used to LOVE to ride horseback.  I am now way too old and brittle for such activities.
31. I used to LOVE to go camping, but now I totally appreciate my amenities.  It does not have to be 5 star, but at least 3 star would be fine.  Under 3 star and I would rather sleep in my car.
32. I love to garden. 
33. I am learning how to sew.
34. I used to be a bartender, and for a while I was a bartender on a riverboat cruise.
35. There are many things that I want to do in life, but travelling to a foreign country is no longer one of them.
36. I have allergies that can kill me.
37. I do not get ill very often, but when I do get ill I do so in a manner the likes of which can best be described as “Biblical in proportion”.
38. I was a weird kid who was bullied in school, until I fought back.
39. Compassion and kindness are very important to me.
40. I enjoy things like getting love notes left for me in my sock drawer.
41. I have been thrown away several times in my life.  I now see that as a character flaw in the people who did it.
42. If I could change one thing in the world I would be lost as to which messed up situation required the most immediate attention.
43. I am a social butterfly who loves my alone time.
44. I am the type of person who does what I say I will do.  And when others do not live up to that standard in themselves I lose interest in them immediately.
45. Personal integrity and authenticity is important to me, even if that goes against what others in our society think I should think and do.
46. I can be fascinated by the morbid things in life.
47. My humour can get quite dark and hysterical.
48. I see, feel, hear, taste and smell energy before I notice a person physically. I have done this since I was a baby.
49. I enjoy driving.  I do not always enjoy other drivers.
50. If I see someone being cruel to an animal the animal will survive, but the person will not.
51. I view myself as a place where science an mysticism can unite.
52. I love my job, as well as my personal time.
53.  I have a University education, but am also wise enough to know that not all answers can be found in a book, and that Academia itself is a culture that is most often not based on reality.
54. I don’t do guilt.  I may feel remorse at some point, but do what I can to right that.  
55. I am not ashamed to have slept with anyone I have slept with.  
56. I tend to not be popular with in-laws, mostly because I don’t adhere to their weird expectations.
57. I like to make people feel comfortable and welcome.  
58. When I enter any room I immediately asses how many things can be used as weapons and how many ways there are to die in that room.
59. I have become comfortable with the element of surprise.
60. I can be a cunning and ruthless adversary.
61. Every now and then I like to blow things up…usually on purpose.  
62. I prefer gentle to rough.
63. I prefer slow to fast.
64. I prefer chocolate to vanilla.
65. My hair began rapidly falling out when I became a father.  I am not sure if that is a direct result or just a timing thing.  I do tell my kids that it is a direct result. 
66. I love tattoos.  I have MANY.
67. For me music is one of the most healing things in existence. 
68. I feel that “Country Music” is a contradiction in terms.
69. I feel the same way about “Opera Music”.
70. I don’t like to wear socks, but these days my feet get too cold if I do not.
71. At the end of the day, when I remove my socks, I feel the same degree of relief described by women when they remove their bras.
72. I love Steampunk design.
73. I never feel lost, but prefer to think of it as “going visiting”.
74. I will ask for directions.  I know.  Weird for a dude.
75. I give people the benefit of the doubt, even when I know it is a HUGE gamble.
76. I do not toss cash at people who beg on the street, but I might buy them a sandwich.
77. There are not many things that freak me out…but one of the ones that do is RODENTS.
78. Once someone loses my trust they may never get it back again.  
79. There have been times in my life when I have felt that the world would be a better place without me in it.
80. I have learned several ways to climb out of the inner darkness.
81. Up until I was 50 years old I had not ever used any recreational drugs.  And now that I have tried them, I can honestly say I do not know what the big deal is because apparently I can’t get high.
82. Medications WILL get me stoned.
83. I have an extremely high pain threshold.
84. I have been physically tortured in my life.
85. None of that compares to the mental torture that I have also experienced.
86. I do not forgive the people who did those things to me.  I don’t have to forgive them in order to heal.  And trying to do so would only enable their poor behaviours.
87. It has been over 15 years since last I spoke with one of my surviving siblings.  It’s the trust thing.
88. I think that if someone asks for advice and then does not take it when given it makes them an askhole.
89. I think that the destruction of our world is based more on greed and capitalism than it is upon religious beliefs.  But I still do not buy into religious beliefs.
90. I do not like dogma.  I have been hated by many when I have pointed out the flaws in the dogma they have preached.
91. Giving a stool sample for medical tests is one of the grossest things I can ever think to do, and thus it has not yet happened.
92. I enjoy cooking.  
93. I enjoy having a nice home.
94. I really enjoy sleeping in my own bed.
95. Camp fires are one of my favourite things.
96. I do keep a journal.  Whether or not I write in it is another thing.
97. I have very active dreams, and many of them are medicine dreams, and many of them are dream journeys.
98. Although I feel that I have found my purpose in life, I am also well aware that no one really knows for sure until the very end.
99. I believe in reincarnation…because I came back….several times.
100. I used to drive a 1969 Chrysler 300.  I named it Ariadne.
101. I used to have long, thick, curly hair.
102. I grew my first beard when I was 15.
103. I grew up on a farm.
104. The trees I planted in that farm yard are still there to this day and have outlived the buildings.
105. I do not go back to the place I grew up. The farm is falling down and the city near it was never home to me.
106. Someone once told me that when your father dies you feel alone in the world, but when your mother dies you know you truly are.  I have not experienced that, because for me the hardest death was that of my wife.
107. I don’t think that time heals all wounds…it just provides us with the space we need to deal with the pain.
108. I believe in second chances, but a third chance is usually out of the question.
109. I do not like commercialism.  And I do not like the pressure it puts on people to empty their pockets of hard-earned cash.
110. Manscaping?  Sure.  Why not?
111. I like to have at least one shower a day.  That usually does it, but it does depend upon the activities of the day as well.
112. I like to have naps right after I eat lunch.  Ten minutes can completely rejuvenate me for the rest of the day.
113. I do NOT like door to door sales people or religious nuts.
114. I will not instantly answer my phone.  I will answer it if it is convenient, otherwise the person calling can leave a message and I will call back.
115. I love hearing my partner sing and play guitar.
116. I play piano.  Not well.  Although my partner would strongly disagree with that.
117. I like to dance.  
118. I may not do what someone expects, but I will always do what is needed.
119. I look forward to hopefully retiring one day, but that will not be for a very long time.
120. Houseplants….gotta love them.
121. Baby Groot is my all time favorite sci-fi character.  I simply MUST one day have one.
122. I try to make each of my daughter’s boyfriends feel welcome…except for the very first one because he immediately came across as a dick…and he was…and he has improved and is now a friend of hers.
123. I have two of the most amazing and independent daughters one could ever hope for.  I know that they will do well in life no matter what.
124. I am very sensitive to changes is weather and atmosphere. 
125. I feel moonlight on my skin the same way one feels the warmth of the sun…but it is cool and tingles instead.
126. I always feel more changed by moonlight than I do by sunlight.  But no, I am not a vampire or werewolf. 
127. I used to have faith in humanity…and then some of them voted Trump into office…
128. I like comedy in entertainment…because laughter makes us live longer.