One of the many services that I offer is that of Toxic Tie Severing. This has to do with the cutting of toxic energies between the self and others. Now, we have to remember that at one time or another we are ALL toxic to one degree or another. So this is not about blaming someone else for your woes. It is about sorting out whose energy is who’s so that we can work on our own baggage and not have to carry that of another person, or vise versa.
When we do this we of course keep the loving ties because sometimes toxic energies come from people with whom we are connected through love. That is also what often makes the toxic stuff so insidious. For example, we can have a grandparent who we love to the end of the earth, but who also makes us feel like crap quite often. That does not mean that they don’t love us or that we should not love them. It means that they communicate in a crappy way to us and sometimes think that their opinion about our lives is more important than our own. This often happens with a generation gap between those in a loving relationship. It is very difficult to stand back and watch a child or grandchild make life decisions that we would not make or want for them. But we do have to remember that we are not the ones living their lives, they are. And so, unless it is something life-threatening, we really need to become a LOT less judgemental about their decisions. After all, we have lived our lives, paving the way so that they can have the FREEDOM to choose. Why get in the way of that?
So when we are severing the toxic stuff, there is a little mantra that I like to use. It goes like this. “My release is everyone’s peace.” Now, that word “peace” can actually be spelled “piece” and it will completely make sense as well. Everyone we are connected to has a small piece of us, and vise versa. But within that we also need to find peace. This can be used whenever we are encountering toxic people, even if it is just said under the breath. That is okay because it alerts the energy system to not take on the crap that someone is doling out.
But then afterwards, when we are alone and recovering from the encounter we also should do some further self-care. That is when I suggest that we breathe and as we do we think (keep in mind) to ourselves, “I breathe in Peace. I breathe out Love.” What this does is it gets our energies and our minds cycling in positive vibrations instead of being bogged down in negative or lower vibrations. Those negative vibrations only serve to attract more negative vibrations, so if we eliminate them through the toxic tie severing process and then fill that space in the energy system with a positive cycle of energy flow, we will become much more peaceful, serene, and powerful.
Once this happens there is a ripple effect. That ripple effect is that we begin to see things entirely differently. Sometimes it means that, in getting out of our own negative cycle, we are able to see other people’s perspectives with understanding and compassion. That does not mean that we have to adopt their perspectives as our own, but that we can appreciate where they are coming from, even if we still hold a different perspective on our end.
We are also often able to see beauty in things that before went unnoticed. That Lakota prayer, “I Walk with Beauty,” becomes applicable here. It goes like this:
I will be forever fulfilled.
Nothing will hinder me.
I walk with beauty before me.
I walk with beauty behind me.
I walk with beauty beside me.
I walk with beauty above me.
I walk with beauty below me.
I walk with beauty around me.
My thoughts, my words, my deeds
Will be filled with beauty.
I am a believer in the power of prayer. I don’t care if we even understand with our tiny human minds exactly the magnitude of who or what we are praying to. I have had so many prayers answered in my lifetime that I no longer doubt that process. So this particular prayer, for me, signifies the ability to cut through the murky veils of consciousness and find the absolute beauty with the Super Consciousness all around us in our world. It is a perspective that I do hold, and can also hold even when I get disgusted with the vile behavior of humans. For me it is not an either/or situation, but a both/and situation.
Truly, it takes a great mind and abundant heart to appreciate the small things in life. I remember as a teenager someone told me, “Small minds like small things.” This was in response to my appreciating a butterfly. My response was something to the effect of, “Perhaps, but only morons diminish that which is truly spectacular.” I was always quick witted, even when I was young. I think going years without voicing things allowed my mind to consider multitudes of possible responses to things. So when I finally began to voice myself, it turned out to be epic.
I invite you, the reader, to try out these techniques for yourself when it comes to releasing toxic energy and embracing positive vibrations in their stead. And know that if you struggle with the process, well there are two things to keep in mind: 1. We are all human and we all struggle with stuff now and then and 2. This is something that I offer as an energy healing service (toxic tie severing), so I can help you with it if need be. You are never alone. There is always support and guidance available, whether that be from myself or anyone else. You’ve got this.