I understand that life is one huge learning curve. However, there also does come a time when we all have to grow up a little bit and stop expecting life to treat us like we are royalty. So, to help everyone along with this, I have begun a list of hard truths. Please feel free to share these whenever applicable:
The Universe does not give out freebies to anyone who does not participate in the co-creation of their manifestations.
Not everyone is going to like/love you. And you are not going to like/love everyone.
Even if you don’t like/love someone, it is important to treat everyone with respect, regardless of age, gender, race, religion or anything else that is divisive in our world.
The powers that currently be do actually want us all to keep fighting amongst ourselves. That way they remain the powers that be. Imagine the uprising that could happen if we did not play the game of divisiveness!
Not everything “happens for a reason.” That is the lazy man’s excuse for poor behaviors and decision making skills. And be very careful to not “blame the victim” when preaching about how “everything happens for a reason,” because to preach that to someone who has been victimized simply makes you a total douche bag.
It is important to learn to say “please” and “thank you.” It doesn’t matter if you are speaking into a fast food order station or on the telephone where you cannot see the other person or with a bank teller or a department store clerk or a coffee barista. Manners matter. The lack of manners communicates that you are rude and obnoxious.
Hold a door open for someone, no matter what age, race, gender etc. It is simply the right thing to do.
Thank someone who has held a door open for you. There is nothing diminishing about communicating appreciation.
Be kind to people…all people. Kindness is not the enablement of poor behaviors. It is an honoring of another human being.
Be kind to animals. They are the most vulnerable in our egocentric world. They need our help.
When we are faced with tragedy, we have a choice. We can crumble into hatred and despair. Or we can rise into compassion and understanding. There is ALWAYS a choice.
Every choice we make has an immediate effect upon others AND upon ourselves. There is no escaping that fact.
There is dogma in everything…not just in religion. There is dogma in science, in medicine, in social structures, spirituality…the list goes on. Dogma exists because ignorance is a precursor to information. Once new information is assimilated, dogma is no longer an acceptable aspect of reality.
You do not have to like everything about your chosen partner. And he/she does not have to like everything about you.
You do not have to enjoy everything that your partner or friends enjoy, and vise versa.
You do have to respect people’s differences. That will make life much smoother.
There is a difference between acceptance and tolerance. Acceptance honors that everyone is different and that this is okay. Tolerance demeans differences and keeps an undercurrent of judgement and bigotry.
Good fences DO INDEED make for good neighbors.
Everyone is allowed their personal privacy. To not allow that is to be treating another as a possession instead of as a person.
Change is inevitable. Growth is optional.
Self-entitlement is a social illness. Fix it.
Boundaries are healthy. People who are offended by them are the ones who have been benefitting from you not having any.
There is a difference between mothering and smothering. Know the difference. Correct your course.
There is a difference between love and obsession. Again, know the difference. Correct your course.
Sometimes you will experience a week that feels like a really messed up year. That is life. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and change something that you think, say or do. This will alter your energy and create a different reality.
Trauma is not your fault. Healing from it is your responsibility.
You can only be you. You cannot be someone else (desireable as that may seem at times). And no one else can be you, no matter how hard they try.
We all live in a meat suit. It is biological in nature. No matter how spiritual or enlightened we become, our meat suits can experience disruptions and dis-eases. That says nothing about our spirtual consciousness or our enlightenment. How we deal with those disruptions and dis-eases will reveal how far along we are on our spiritual path to enlightenment.