I would like to say right up front that I do believe in curses and hexes and such. I have seen them in action. I have been taught how to perform them with speed, accuracy and precision. Do I make that a daily practice? Certainly not. The reason that I was taught any of that in the first place is because it is common practice for many who are practiced in the occult. My teacher said to me that if I am going to have to battle with those forces, I had better learn how to put those forces to use to protect myself.
Now, having said all that, I must also say that there are a LOT of times when someone expresses to me that they need a curse lifted off of them when, in fact, no curse has been placed. This is where it gets dicey. I can tell from the energy field of a person if they have a curse placed upon them. Most often the person does not. It is just that they have had a hard string of “bad luck” and are coming to the conclusion that someone has placed a curse upon them. This can actually be quite a dangerous situation because when people feel justified in “counter hexing” someone they think has cursed them it can erupt into a psychic war zone when no curse was actually placed on the person in the first place. We really have to use our heads here.
Often there is actually a clear track that has been left by oneself that leads to the “bad luck” cycle. Did you notice that? It is left by ONESELF. That means that the “bad luck” cycle is actually one of one’s own making. So here is how this can look (and this is just an example but it serves to make a point):
Sally: I need you to remove a curse for me.
Me: What makes you think you have been cursed?
Sally: Everything in my life is going to hell in a hand basket.
Me: Okay, but can you give me some concrete examples of what you mean by this?
Sally: My Ex is giving me grief about child support, my back yard shed got broken into, my car has broken down, and I just got laid off of work…again.
Me: That doesn’t sound like a curse. That sounds like a string of events that you are tying together as interwoven when they are not necessarily connected, other than through you…you being the common denominator.
Sally: So this is my FAULT??!
Me: What I am saying is that a lot of things are hitting you all at once, but that they are not necessarily a “curse” as such.
Sally: Well who else in the world has such bad luck?
Me: A lot of people, you would be surprised. Now, tell me about your car.
Sally: My car? Well, the transmition blew out on it.
Me: I see. And what about the car’s performance was different leading up to this?
Sally: Nothing really. I mean…the “check engine” light was on, but that thing is always on.
Me: Did you get the car checked when the “check engine” light came on?
Sally: No. As I said, that thing is always on.
Me: So it never went off?
Me: There you go. If a “check engine” light comes on, but does not go off within one or two days, it is important to get your car in for maintainence.
Sally: Well no one ever told me THAT.
Me: I am telling you now. This lesson has cost you a lot, I would imagine.
Sally: Yes..way too much.
Me: And next time it can be avoided by maintaining your vehicle properly. How often do you get an oil change done?
Sally: I don’t know…whenever it needs it.
Me: How do you know if it needs it?
Sally: I don’t. It is just when I think of it.
Me: Within the last year, how often did you get your oil changed?
Sally: Once, I think.
Me: *shakes head* Sally, you are neglecting your car. And here is the really sad thing. All of this could have been avoided if you paid better attention to your car’s needs. And here is the really BAD thing…you were willing to blame this on someone else who supposedly cursed you when actually it was your own neglect that led to this.
Me: Tell me about your backyard shed.
So this is how this sort of misconception about being “cursed” happens. We make decisions in our lives, actively or passively, and then there is a ripple effect that takes place with each and every one of those decisions. And when it all blows up in our faces, we think that we must be “cursed” when in actuality what we were was neglectful, not cursed.
Curses can be done in a number of ways, but what we need to acknowledge is that it takes a lot of work, preparation, intent, and energy to actually send out a well-targetted curse. No, I am not going to go into details here. That would be dangerous. But what I can say is that most people don’t have the know-how, the personal discipline, or the intestinal fortitude to do what is necessary for a well-placed curse. And even if they did, what makes you think that you are important enough in their world to actually bother going to that amount of work? In my own life, there are 99.999% of the people I know who would want to curse who are not important enough for me to curse, and I actually KNOW HOW TO. But I don’t because they are not worth my time or energy or anything that is involved in actually implementing it. I prefer to sit back, watch them dig their own graves, and then watch as they place themselves into said graves. That takes no effort whatsoever and is highly amusing, depending upon who it is. What I will do, however, is cut them completely out of my life. And once this shaman burns a bridge, there is no rebuilding it.
Then there is the other issue. Yes, there is yet another issue. This may sound hard to believe, but I have seen this happen a number of times, so please trust me when I say that this happens. That is that some folks are cowards. They would rather go to their shaman (or witch, or whatever) and say that they think that they have been cursed, as a means of getting that shaman/witch to take supposed “counter-measures” against a person for which this individual has a hate on. Someone who is not wise to this form of manipulation will end up, in trying to assist, getting tangled in a web of crap that they really did not need in their lives…all because this person was too cowardly to actually do the deed themselves. As a result of this type of poor behavior on the part of cowardly individuals, I am very retisent to oblige people with this sort of thing. I always look for the actual causes of the “bad luck” as opposed to the “magical causes.” And if there is no energetic evidence whatsoever that a person has, indeed, been cursed, then the answer will always be “NO.”
The other issue, and yes, there is yet another one, is that people will often use the words “I must be cursed” to express their own feelings of distress about how things have been going in their lives, when, in actuality, they do not believe that they have been cursed and are just venting their frustration. But suddenly someone hears them say “I must be cursed” and jumps right in with a, “Well if that IS the case, I know just the guy you need to see. He can remove that curse.” Thus the person ends up in my chair. I mean, I love the fact that people will refer others to me. That is, after all, how I pay my mortgage. But it is not necessarily that what they are refering them to me for is actually what that person and myself will end up working on, becuase it may be something totally different because the curse is not actually there. If it is there, then yes, we take care of that pronto, and not in a “counter curse” manner but in a neutralization manner. But most often there are no markers whatsoever, indicating a total absence of a curse.
Admittedly, most people who do not see energy fields and who are inept at detecting indicators of curses have to go on the person’s word. But there is that inner wisdom voice (see the blog titled “Life Without a Compass”) that we all have that, when you listen to it, no matter what is coming out of a person’s mouth, will tell us what is actually authentic and what is not. The problem is that many people never listen to that inner wisdom voice in the first place, and therefore just go on a person’s words and react instead of respond. So when the issue of a curse comes up, the best thing to do is to just slow the heck down and take a great deal of time to process the information and also to address the “this worldly” issues that are more likely to have led up to a person’s “bad luck.” If we don’t listen to that inner wisdom voice, we can truly end up making a bad situation disasterous.