We have all had it happen at one time or another. There we are, minding our own business, when suddenly someone decides that they have to insert their belief system upon us. In social situations this can be uncomfortable at best. In professional situations it can be incredibly destructive. But when someone does this while giving a therapeutic treatment…well that is simply abuse.
When someone comes to a healer (contemporary or traditional, it really does not matter) and the healer inserts his or her belief systems onto that person, the healer is abusing the patient. This person is there to receive help. Be it a physical ailment or an emotional or psychological ailment, the situation can and should be healed without inserting any belief system upon the patient. The patient is there, open to receive healing…not dogma…not opinions…not conditions. And the most infuriating thing about this is that there are some practitioners who will insist that unless you adopt their belief systems you will not heal at all, or at least you will not be healed for very long because then you will continue on the same destructive path that you were on when you first arrived. This is dogma at its finest…or worst. Either way…it is NASTY.
As a healer, I do not get to have an opinion on the lives or life choices of my patients. I actually prefer, first off, to call them my clients. The term “patient” to me sets up an unbalanced relationship. I am here merely as a vessel through which healing energy flows. I open energetic doorways for the person to either opt to accept or reject at that particular moment. I am not offended in any way if the rejection happens. The person’s own innate energetic intelligence gets to decide what it will accept and what it will not. The invitation may come around another time, and at that time the energy system still can choose for itself what it wants and what it does not want. And if it does not want it, then perhaps it is simply a timing thing or a readiness thing. It doesn’t make the person wrong or bad simply because the energy is rejected in this moment. I like to focus more upon the success of what the energy does accept, more than what it does not.
The same goes for sharing wisdom teachings. Sometimes those are in anecdotes from my life, sometimes in stories that have been passed down to me through the generations. Nonetheless, what the person absorbs of it, if it is absorbed at all, and to what degree, is completely up to them, not me. I may share the same wisdom teachings another time, and at that time parts of it may be more palatable for the person. That is all good.
Do I decide that a person is a failure because they are not integrating teachings or energy? No. That is entirely on them. It is their choice. And perhaps they are being successful in ways to which I am not privy. That is totally cool as well. For me, no one is a failure. Everyone is on a learning curve. Sometimes that curve is more verticle in nature. Sometimes it is gradual. Either way, learning is still happening.
When we try to force our beliefs on people, what we are doing is psychologically and emotionally abusing them, plain and simple. And, let’s face it, have we not had enough of that nonsense from religions and cults over the last few thousand years? When do we finally put all of that down and accept each person’s Divine Sovereignty? It is so needed now. So NOW is the time.
My invitation to my readers is this. Look at the many ways in which others’ beliefs and opinions have been forced down your throat. How did that feel? How far did that set you back on your journey? Now…look at the times that you have also done that to others. Observe the fact that they likely felt exactly the same as did you when that was done to you. You do not have to jump through firey hoops to make things right. Acknowledgement is the first step. Apologise if you still have that person in your life. Make amends in whatever way you can think of that is meaningful to them. And, most importantly, check yourself whenever you find yourself doing this again. This is not only a learned behaviour, it is also a learned habit. In order for a habit to be broken, it must be vigillantly monitored and corrected. This does not happen overnight. It is again a learning curve and it will take some time. But stick with it and do everything you can to correct the course in the moment, which will do much less damage than leaving it for years on end to correct.
Many Warm Blessings!